I posted this (below) on LinkedIn today. I wasn’t going to. Thought it might spoil the IWD mood a bit. Thought I might be letting the side down. But then stopped thinking. I’m totally sick of talking to woman who are getting bullied by other woman (and men). But I guess what really set me off was seeing those bullies posting about IWD like they were the heroes. No you are not. As Viv Groskop would say ‘Lift as you climb’.
Thought Id share. Because it’s easy not to speak up, look away, stay quiet. But that doesn’t make it go away.
LinkedIn Post
Horrible Women
I got fed up yesterday. IWD stirs all kinds of thoughts, mostly, do We really need a day?
But then I flipped that and thought yeah go with it, celebrate. And loved reading incredible stories.
But an uncomfortable thought still lingered.
I was fed up because recently it feels like the amount of women bullying other women is getting worse not better.
People book in a call with me when they don’t want to be in their job anymore, or they’ve been let go.
And for the last 12 months there has been a steady stream of people who are getting bullied to the point of burnout, and it’s too often female leaders.
Yesterday I saw two of those women who I’d been told about last year post about IWD. And it jarred.
It’s not about how fabulous you are, at what cost you’ve got to where you, it’s about what you are doing now. How are you helping others?
Feels like we accept ‘at least it’s a woman in that role’ and ignore her horrible behaviour to justify it.
So of course I celebrate woman doing their thing, but not at the cost of others.
If all you’ve got is bullying to get to where you are then you are part of the problem.
So that was the ramble today!
eleanor
I know where you are coming from. Let's just leave it at that